The Adonis Method

This is an idea I have had for awhile, but was eloquently worded in an ebook I recently read entitled The Great Female Con by Andy Randead. Basically, the idea goes like this: if you have a tall, slim glass–like a pilsner glass or champagne flute–and pour water in it, it will take that shape. If you a have short, fat glass–like a tumbler glass–the same water will take that shape. Women behave like water. They will conform to whatever shape the man gives them. To quote Randead:

When a woman is dealing with a wuss, she becomes strong-willed, probably controls the relationship and calls most of the shots. She will take full advantage of his wimpy nature, bitch-slapping him at will. Also, she has to fill the void that his demeanor has created. If she’s with a guy with balls, then she must tone it down and become more docile. She must be complaisant and take on a more traditional female role. Not only can she not get away with as much, but also has fewer voids to fill because there is already someone taking on the lead role. There must be someone who takes the lead role for a relationship to survive.

In order to maintain a tolerable relationship with the kind of woman you desire, this MUST be you! I’ve noticed that women will conform to just about any role a man places her in. I’ve seen even the most seemingly “cold-hearted bitch” become a truly gentle “sweetheart” when she is with the kind of guy that does not put up with her immature antics. Likewise, I have seen some of the “kindest” and “most nurturing” women become “cruel” and “conniving” women, when with a guy who has neither a backbone nor a set of balls.

As men, we tend to not be as adaptive. We tend to stay in the same patterns. Think of it this way, we all have that guy friend who is in a relationship that makes him miserable [or maybe I’m talking about you–I hope not!]….perhaps he is married to her and has him on a tight leash and constantly controls him. If he’s lucky he may get tired of it [most of the time SHE will actually get tired of it first] and the relationship will end. You are relieved because now he can go and form a relationship with someone who will treat him much better now that “that bitch” is out of his life. When he finds a girl things may seem perfect initially….but give them enough time together, and lo and behold, he is in the exact same kind of relationship with a domineering and intolerable woman. What happened?? The woman had to step up to conform to the way he framed the relationship. She conformed to his “Beta” nature, by becoming “Alpha” herself.

Now I know if there are any women reading this, they will probably say that what I’ve just typed is complete and utter bullshit. She will say that she is an individual and doesn’t change for anyone. She will say that she is the same regardless of whom she is dealing with or regardless of the situation. I’m sure a few exceptions to my above assertions exist [although I haven’t experienced any yet!], but you can safely assume that I am correct on this. Don’t believe me? Just take a look at your own relationship patterns…Look at your friend’s relationship patterns. You will notice the woman adapting to fit the man’s nature every time.

This is all fine and dandy for relationship management, but how does this relate to pickup and seduction? Here are some thoughts. Want the high-quality, much sought-after women? Better be the strong, alpha male. Women may initially get a surge of validation by being able to get a man to bend to her whims, but she will tire of it very quickly. She doesn’t want to have to be the dominant one all the time. This is why the high value women shit test men and why you should not worry when she does so. She wants to find out as quickly as possible if you are going to be the dominant one, or if she is going to have to step into that role. By being un-reactive and alpha she will know quickly that she will NOT have to step up into the dominant role and will feel attraction towards this guy.

Also, women want to be sucked into your reality….she doesn’t want you to be sucked into hers. She’s capable of playing both roles, but truly desires to experience the emotions and adventure that being swept up into the man’s reality will give her. Don’t believe me? Forget what you see happening in sappy “Romantic Comedies”, and read any “Harlequin” romance novel. Did you know that 54% of all books sold in North America are Romance Novels? 46% is everything else!! Staggering statistics. Unlike the dopey, love-able loser you see eventually getting the girl in romantic comedies, in a romance novel, it is always the alpha male archetype going about his life, doing his own thing that happens upon a woman and sucks her into his reality. And trust me, if someone were to want to use me as a character, I’d much rather be cast into the Romance Novel role….there experiences are far more exciting and sexually charged!!

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