October 2, 2007
Sex Is Always Available To Women….The Conundrum
For a long time I puzzled about this. Why is it that women can get laid any night they choose whereas for the average dude, this is not the case?
Experience shows this is the case. I can remember a friend of mine [we’ll call her Susie…though I don’t think I’ve ever actually had a friend named that 
] and I once decided to ask every member of the opposite sex in a popular Las Vegas bar if they wanted to have no-strings attached sex that night. It was an amusing experiment. I had some funny things happen, because I asked in an alpha-friendly way, not all inquiries resulted in a slap across the face, but let’s just say that other than the ones that are just messing with me [giving me false IOI’s], I had no real affirmative response from women with this. Susie, on the other hand, had almost 100% [one of the groups of men were gay, but they still played around with saying “oh yeah, girlfriend!”]. Susie is a very attractive woman, but I’d venture to say that even if she weren’t, her results would be almost as high with this experiment.
This seemed strange to me considering the proverbial nuggets you get in the pickup community like women want sex more than guys do. If a woman is in a night club, she wants sex [from a new guy]. Women sleep with more different men, than the average guy does with women…etc. This seemed strange especially considering in the US there are slightly more women than men [19 men:20 women]. It seems prima facie that men should naturally wield the sex advantage.
But let’s take a closer look at what’s going on. Women have a much shorter fertility span and although I’m sure post-menopausal sex occurs, I don’t think it is as regular an occurrence as when a woman is in her late teens and early 20’s. A guy like Hugh Hefner can still be banging 18 year old women; but, although there are undoubtedly a few exceptions, a woman of the same age is not going to be regularly sleeping with 18 year old men. This hugely dilutes the male to female ratio. This causes there to be a huge amount of guys competing for the now relatively small amount of young, fertile women.
Ask a woman who is in her late 20’s or in her 30’s and although it is quite common for a woman to experience an increase in libido at these ages, they will tell you that men are not competing for them like they used to [well, at least on average]. Hell, I’m a part of the this complaint for sure. I’m in the same age range [I just turned 30—I’ve noticed that the older I get the more attractive I get!] and which women do I regularly sleep with? Girls in their late teens and early 20’s. The average woman in that age range [18-24] is having far more sex than males of the same age on average.
Tyler Durden posted a long time ago about the secret society where he hypothesized something to the effect that 1% of men were getting 99% of the sex with women. I’m not going to take this figure as a literal number but more as illustrative one. I read in a book on sexuality once that the average guy has sex with just under 5 different women in his entire life. The woman’s number was a bit higher than that, I think it was something like 7, but I think even that is a grossly low-ball figure. Although I’m sure those numbers will increase for both genders as social norms on non-marital sex is becoming more and more acceptable, I believe the same kind of guy that is seducing the majority of women now will be the one’s increasing the notches on a woman’s belt in a future more sexually-relaxed society. What does this say about the guys that get it now? You are in for a lot of sex! Someone has to keep the young women’s sexual statistics up!
I think you hit the nail on the head.
There have been drastic changes over time (the last 10 years especially) in the roles that men and women play in society. Once upon a time a woman “needed” a man (ie: we couldn’t even own property). Women weren’t given the stereotype of faithful, child bearing, vaccuming in high heels, dinner is served, do gooders for nothing. The majority of women stayed with their significant others through thick and thin (obviously being the sex that actually listened to the marraige vows!) There was the idea that you can’t test out the “goods” before you bought them and when a woman dared to try she was labeled as a whore while the male was said to be “acting like a man”. Well, no more my friend. We have been wonderful students and after reviewing our notes we have learned a few things. Women have stood up, looked around, and said wait a second… all he really does is provide sperm. That’s right, we don’t “need” a man around to cook for, clean up after, and support. And guess what… we’re teaching our daughters the same. Right or wrong? Moral or immoral? That has nothing to do with it. Sorry guys, it’s time to taste the medicine that your fathers and grandfathers dished out to our mothers and grandmothers. Oh wait… its a win/win for you because all you want is sex anyway.
A long explanation to answer a simple question my dear Adonis. Woman can get sex anytime they want because they are finally out asking for it instead of sitting at home with the washing maching on the spin cycle waiting for their lying, cheating husbands to come home and give them, what could be for him, the second or third round version of sex.
Thanks for the comment Dee… Glad to see a feminine perspective. I would disagree with the idea that only men lie and cheat…and say that women do it just as much [possibly more] but are just better at not getting caught!! A guy will have a chance for a tryst with bad logistics [i.e. a greater chance of getting caught] and he will do it; whereas a woman will tend to plan things out, wait it out, arrange for better logistics, and if she doesn’t get caught….it never happened!! If guys would understand this, not only would more “opportunities” present themselves, they could also rid themselves of the stereotype that only men cheat.